SUPPORTRoad to Purity

What is Purity?

First we must define what purity is and what it is not.

Let's start with some of the misconceptions that society tells us:

It must be made clear that:

 ~  Purity is not the denial of sex.
  ~  Purity is not prudishness.
  ~  Purity is not a not a belief that sex is wrong or bad or that is is somehow unholy to enjoy sex.
  ~  It is not a belief that sex is shameful.

A dictionary definition of purity is:

     “Freedom from that anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes etc.” 

 Also can see from a Bible concordance a definition that:

    “Purity is that which is designed by God and is free from contamination”

A clear concise definition that I use for my ministry is:

    "Something that is true or authentic to its original purpose or creation”

 or in a human behavioral perspective:

     "Purity is being authentic to the purpose of God's creation”.

So then how does being authentic to the purpose of God’s creation relate to sex?

We must first understand who we are as mankind. To begin with we know we are created in the image of God (Genesis 1:27), but what does that mean, obviously God isn’t human (except for Jesus).

   God is Love, Mercy, and Sacrifice (1 John 4:8, Ephesians 2:4-5, Romans 5:8 )

God created us as an overflowing extension of His love, and we as such, in His image, we are also overflowing in Love, mercy and sacrifice (except when Satan injects his pride and we become selfish and self centered – but that’s a whole additional topic).

We mirror the image of God as man:


Two joined as one:

We then see that we are created as male and female and are intended to be joined as one flesh in marriage (Genesis 2:24)

“In the Sanctity of marriage under God, Sex, is the wedding vows made flesh”. - Christopher West

This divine union, or sex, is the ultimate form of intimacy (but intimacy is not exclusively sex as explained in the Understanding Intimacy page of this site.).  In this union, if God wills it, we co-create life with God – a child. This mother, father and child is an earthly reflection of the Holy Trinity.

God in His wholeness, exists in three parts, or three persons: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. The image of Father, Mother and child is a reflection of that union resulting in 3 parts of the whole. Additionally, part of a good spouse is to be loving, merciful and show sacrifice to the other spouse as well as the child. All of this represents us being in the image of God, and thus authentic to our original creation – “Purity”

Furthermore, as in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, we see that as two made one flesh, man and woman are supposed to engage in sex.  - Hey, God made it pleasurable for a reason!

BUT! – sex is not just a physical act, it is the culmination of all the building blocks of intimacy - (again refer to Understanding Intimacy page), and again, as being in the image of God, we are called to empty ourselves to the other so completely and  to such an extent that we become transparent. Again intimacy.

God, out of infinite love emptied himself to the Son and the Son out of infinite love emptied himself to the Father so much that a third person manifested – The Holy Spirit, thus creating the Blessed Trinity. The infinite love that these persons in God share is so strong that it overflowed creating Mankind.

As we see, purity has nothing to do with the absence of sex, but quite the opposite. Its “The wedding vows made flesh”.  It is embracing our authentic selves as created in the image of God.